Welcome to the Family, Leo!

After months of agonizing over what to do about my sweet Leo, changing my mind every other hour about whether to buy or move on, I finally admitted that there’s no way I could ever say goodbye to him. I didn’t quite convince my husband of the same, it was more of a solemn acceptance but I’m just lucky he loves to see me happy. At least I waited for him to pass the bar, right?

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Leo is an 18-year-old, 17.1 Rhinelander warmblood.

Buying an older horse is rarely a financially sound decision (blog post on that later), but if any horse deserves a safe landing spot, it’s Leo and he’s found it with me. Thanks and apologies to everyone for letting me pretend he was mine for the past two years. Welcome to the family sweet boy!

Brief Introduction / Reasons He’s A Unicorn / Cutest Quirks:

  • Loves all animals and is always interested in befriending any horse, human, dog or cat

  • Becomes braver and braver on trails every time we go out

  • Basically reads my mind if I think even think “chip”

  • Always, always, always saves my amateur af butt

  • Tall, dark and decisively handsome

  • Has taken me from crossrails to 3’ (okay, we’re working on getting back up there)

  • He doesn’t destroy blankets

  • Not allowed to talk + ride

  • Has the best flaxen tail

  • Has the cutest jump

  • Loves bananas

  • Ex big eq boy

  • Is mine

Loved him from the first day. 8/8/17.

Loved him from the first day. 8/8/17.

My Experience with an Animal Communicator Pt II

A few weeks ago, I had a discussion with an animal communicator, Anise Silvernail, see Part I. At the time of the call, I was just beginning the process of purchasing Leo, a horse I’d been riding for a year and half, and wanted to tread lightly around the purchase process so saved this post until it was official!

I listed a few of the questions I asked below, but our conversation flowed a bit more than a question and answer session would, regardless I still included the basic idea of the question, her (Anise’s)/his (Leo’s) response and my reaction to what was communicated.


Q: What makes him happiest?

A: Leo says he needs regular work and interaction and brain stimulation. Not just going around and bopping around doing the same thing every day. He wants to work and think and he says he’s very smart and if he’s taught something he GETS IT. He needs little obstacle courses and work with poles and cones and he can be a little obstinate, but he really just likes to learn new things.

He says you need to relax more in your upper body. He likes being someone’s somebody. He felt like a waste of space before. He’s not aloof, but he’s nervous to displease or dissatisfy. He has a fear of rejection.

If you buy him and stop coming out, he would be so sad. He hates having to worry if you’re going to show up. Assure him you'll be coming back, like tell him out loud when you’ll see him next.

He’s kind of like a hound dog, very go along to get along as is happy to do whatever you want to.

R: This is pretty spot on. Leo is not a grumpy horse in his stall, but you can tell when he gets bored! Like dude has annihilated stall doors in his past. Not angrily, not looking to wreak havoc, but he has just taken out a stall door because he felt like going for a graze. He is also very smart, is always looking for patterns in our riding, hoping he can be one step ahead of my instruction. I know he bonds to people easily and has been passed over for a permanent home a few times and it definitely took him some time to accept me as someone who would keep showing up. I also do struggle a lot with not following with my hands.


Q: [On on the topic of not seeing him as much] There are days he has other lessons, so I don’t go out because I don’t want to overwork him.

A: He doesn’t mind if he has another lesson, he still wants to see me. Just go out and groom him, spend time in his stall. He feels like you’re always on the clock. He says that you’re a little intense, very high anxiety and stressed and hurrying through, but he can tell that you naturally fall into a groove with him and just being at the barn and once you start riding, like all is right in the world. He can tell the barn is your happy place.

R: I do hate to go out when I feel like I’ll be rushed or trying to hurry and get ready and hurry and go home. And it’s so true that when I arrive at the barn most days, especially after work, I feel like the embodiment of nervous energy but feel completely at peace once I’m a few minutes into my ride.


Q: Would he like to be in a pasture? Would he want to move barns?

A: He say he wouldn’t mind moving barns, but doesn’t want to bounce all over. He doesn’t like constantly having new people taking care of him or wondering if he’ll be fed on time. He would not like being in a pasture with other horses, he does like having let down time to himself in a stall. He’s sort of like the outgoing person at a dinner party who feels pressure to entertain and always have an exciting story to tell but is exhausted by the effort and needs time to decompress.

R: This really surprised me. Leo has always struck me as the friendliest horse, he’s always curious with his neighbors in his stall and in the cross ties, but I can see how he would like his decompression time. He isn’t the most patient soul and has recently stopped chilling in his walk out since getting new neighbors he doesn’t quite like as much, kinda sad. But I am glad he enjoys his stall and isn’t like dyyyying to be in a pasture, though I do think he’ll end up in one as it should improve his creakiness.


Q: Does his tummy ever hurt? Ulcers, etc.?

A: His stomach doesn’t hurt, its more his lower back and into his ribcage is tight. He needs to strengthen his back. He drops his belly going around, and that’s why he has that tenderness.

R: He loves to bee bop around lazily, just super inverted and ugly. We’ve recently been working on belly lifts and hopefully that along with attentive riding will improve things. He’s already improved with the touchiness surrounding his flank/loin.


Q: Is he sore in his neck or legs? Or anywhere? How’s my saddle fit?

A: His legs are okay, normal. I would recommend neck stretches, like a carrot stretch. His neck feels very tight, tight down into his withers. Your saddle fit is okay, the half pad needs work. Its sort of interfering and feels like it moves too much as one piece if that makes sense.

R: This is not surprising AT ALL. His neck has become super stiff in the past two months, especially to the left! A chiro adjustment is at the top of my wishlist for him, but we have been working on the carrot stretches as well.


Q: What’s his favorite thing to do? Trail ride? Jump? Show? Graze?

A: He loves to just have fun times, run around and play tag with him. I know they say it creates nippy horses but he loves when you hide treats in your pockets and have him find them. Says if you play with him in a field he won’t kick you or hurt you, just likes to play.

R: This was so sweet to hear! Maybe it’s all horses, but Leo seems to especially love searching my pocket for treats. Pretty cute, it’s a very common activity for us.


Q: Favorite treat?

A: Favorite treat is apples, like the yellow golden apples. The red ones can taste like nothing and the green ones are too sharp.

R: Can confirm, he looooves these apples. Maybe he’s reacting the way any horse would react to a delicious apple, but definitely one of his favorite treats!


Q: What do I do that he doesn’t like?

A: He said he doesn’t like: everyyyything you do, said jokingly. He says he’s very grateful that he has you in his life.

But sometimes when we are trying something, you assume he knows something and he needs to work up to it. Just because he’s done something before with another rider, doesn’t mean he’ll understand when you ask him. He doesn’t understand how far we are scooping.

You need to be clear with your outside aids, because he doesn’t understand what you’re asking.

You need to work on going slow and really praise when he does it well so he knows if he’s done it right.

R: He gave an example of a circle exercise we did the week before - spiraling in and out. I was so confused by what Anise was describing I couldn’t take notes. I was just like what the hell am I scooping? I don’t feed him?? I eventually understood. So true that I needed to be clear with my outside aids, to spiral out I was removing my outside leg pretty much completely and his should was just completely falling out of the circle!


Q: Can you tell me about his past? Where did he grow up? Has he had a happy life?

A: He does not want to talk about his old life at all. He’s done with it, it’s in the past, his old owner does not need to visit him. He went through some traumatic things and is very future focused. Animals are very much like children in that once they experience trauma, they choose to ignore it and not think about it. He’s happy today and that’s all he cares about.

R: Wasn’t expecting quite this response, but it somewhat fits what I’ve heard about his past. He was basically a Big Eq horse but couldn’t mentally keep up with the intense show schedule. After an accident with his owner, he lost a ton of trust and was put up for sale and [fortunately for me] never sold. His story is so sad, but I’d never have the chance to have such an incredible animal in my life otherwise.

My Experience with an Animal Communicator Pt I

Everyone knows I like horses. I’m a horse girl, yes, but not just that, I’m a Dorky Horse Girl which means I absolutely listen to Horse Radio Network podcasts all day at work. Recently on one episode of Retired Racehorse Radio, one of the trainer/hosts mentioned she had a session with an animal communicator to better understand her incoming OTTBs. (I have to say I love how accepting most horse people are of animal communicators because often dealing with this animals it can come to ‘whatever works’.) I creepily tracked the host down on Facebook and asked her if she could give me the communicator’s contact information.

I’d wanted to do something like this for my dogs for quite a while, so I drafted an e-mail to Anise Silvernail but saved it to get some input from my husband. Well, that week JD was diagnosed with CHF and the following week had an EKG which found he now had Mitral Valve Disease from his murmur progressing, so not the greatest news (I luckily got all my 800 cry sessions out before the phone call)! But with that, I thought there would be no better time to speak to Anise to learn more about my animals’ opinions.


Briefly at the beginning of the conversation we discussed how the communication works. Basically (from my elementary understanding), animals can learn words and even if they do not understand the conversations around them, they understand tone and interactions and communicate back through words, pictures or showing scenes telepathically which is part of the reason it’s not as easy to communicate with wild animals - they don’t learn human language. Animals she communicates can generally express themselves anywhere from a 3rd to 6th grade level as far as complexity of ideas go. She told me to prepare some questions before the call so I don’t forget to ask anything and asked for their names, breed and age to be able to communicate with them.


James

Q: How is he feeling?

A: He understands that he’s sick, but he’s still happy. He still wants to do a variety of things and enjoy life as much as possible. He said that he’s not dead yet and to cry when he’s gone but for now he wants to do as much possible together, play and snack, and he doesn’t want to cut his life back.

Q: What does he want to do more of?

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A: He keeps talking about snacking, like something cut up in the kitchen? Maybe salami, ham or sausage? It’s pink. (I think this is either chicken breast or turkey! Hopefully I can find JD a low salt lunch meat!) He wants to also just chill outside in the sun, not like on a walk with people or dogs walking by, but sunbathe and relax outdoors. He likes when his people sit and read and likes to see his people content at home.

Q: Has he had a happy life, even though he never got his backyard?

A: He feels fulfilled and loved, and sees himself more as a little person because he’s so included in everything. He says, “We did this, we did that, we got our home [apartment] together, …”

A: [unprompted] He’s having bladder issues and is very embarrassed about it. His ego is hurt, and he’s used to going around being the cutest dog and everyone cooing over him and his pride is hurt by the diapers. Maybe see if you can talk to the vet about incontinence, or frame the diaper as a positive for him. Make it a celebration and something to be excited about.

[I got a bit emotional towards the end and didn’t end up taking many notes during this part of the conversation]

Q: Is there anything else he would want to tell us? Can you tell him sorry he never got a backyard?

A: He says he has literally everything he wants! He can’t imagine what else would he would need.



Milo

Q: What makes him happiest?

A: First off, Milo wants everyone to know that he’s in charge and is the favorite. We should do more of what he says. He’s just this massive personality and if he could shrink down and fit in our pocket he would go around with us all day. He’s very self important and thinks no one understands that he’s the fabric holding the family together. He feels like his importance is forgotten with everything going on with JD, which he understands. There is some sibling rivalry, not dislike but he pouts and feels under appreciated. [He absolutely pouts] We should do something special with Milo alone to make him feel better.

A: Milo wonders how JD passing will that change our family dynamic and has anxiety if they both get sick, what will happen to mom and dad?

Q: What would he like to do more of?

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A: More praising, petting, celebrate him, Milo likes to snack but he LOVES engaging play time and jumping around with him. Not just throw the toy and he brings it back.

Q: How are his joints feeling? Is he ever in pain?

A: Joints are sticky but not painful, all of his joints pop when he gets up to stretch and usually once he gets going he’s fine.

Q: Does he like his food?

A: It’s a little dry compared to their old food.

Q: Does Milo like other dogs besides JD? Would he want another dog in the house after JD?

A: He does not like other dogs. He’ll be sad if JD dies but he will not want another dog. He wants to be in charge. No cats either.

Q: Can we help him be less afraid of being tripped over or having things dropped on him?

A: He says this isn’t your fault, he’s always been that way, but it’s hard to him to see what’s going on around him - he can’t look up or around that well because he has a short neck and he says he wants to be groomed again. And his fur creates a shadow effect that makes him sometimes see things that aren’t there (I’m guessing this is all of his extra ear fur that he might see in his peripheral vision).

Q: Would he like to start coming to the barn? Would he be scared of the horses?

A: He’s not so sure about the horses, but would require more attention and interaction. Wouldn’t want to sit there bored for forever and doesn’t want to be tied up but would go if it was short or he had company.

Q: What does he want to do more of?

A: He wants more individual time and attention. He does not want long walks or hikes, we get overzealous (v. true, he does always need a few good breaks on longer walks!). Wants to be treated like a prince.


I also had her communicate with Leo, but I’ll save that (very eye-opening) discussion for another day. It was funny that all three animals remarked that I have a ‘buzzing’ energy and am always working at a high stress level, or am constantly flitting around while I’m home all of which I would say is true.

Do I believe? Absolutely. Even if you don’t, I think it’s such a cool experience and if anything, could be a great story to tell. There’s no way she could have known that Leo had a rough past and issues with feeling abandoned, JD had bladder issues or that Milo thinks he is basically dog royalty. All my social media was also set to private prior to contacting her. For now we are going to be making sure that JD gets to live it up and Milo gets some individualized attention, and probably a hair cut! Milo and JD also said I’m their favorite, so checkmate my dear skeptic husband.

Anise’s contact information is below if you’re interested in having a conversation with your animals!

Anise Silvernail
Focused Heart Massage Therapy
focusedheartsouthlyon.com